I haven’t seriously made candles since we moved to our new house in 2008.
I used to spend several hours each month with family and friends pouring enormous pillar candles for gifts and to sell for charity. I’d collected a few thousand dollars of molds and equipment, but a few years ago, I sold most of it.
Recently, I became interested in learning more about the eco-costs of using paraffin (refined solid petroleum) for candles and kerosene/mineral oil for lamps and outside torches. I researched how others have mixed different types of wax, and I started collecting leftover wax bits and candles that didn’t burn well.
Today I poured three candles from batches I dyed more than 10 years ago. I also mixed some of those leftover paraffin candle bits with beeswax candle bits, olive oil, and soy wax flakes, and put it into a candle container that I’d cleaned out.
Why do I sometimes use the handle “cooccurrent?” Things that “co-occur” are multiple things (people, places, objects) or events present together or happening together at the same place and time.
“Cooccurring challenges” or “co-occurring conditions” is a psychiatric label assigned to people with challenges from emotional difficulties (“mental health”) along with difficulty from problem habits (addictionor compulsion). ” Other names for these experiences include “dual diagnosis” or “coexisting issues.”
I am a survivor of emotional and physical health challenges. I have several years uninterrupted abstinence from addiction to illegal drugs. I have been labeled non-consensually with a “co-occurring conditions” diagnosis. I choose to reclaim that stigmatizing label and return the word to its literal definition.
I see my challenges and lived experience with emotional suffering, as well as the lessons learned through overcoming addiction, to be a tremendous source of strength. For me, my challenges are a natural human response to surviving trauma, and diseases or illnesses. But because of the difficulties, I am more conscious about self-care and working towards a self-sufficient existence.
So far, my challenges have prevented me from obtaining and maintaining traditional paid employment. It is my hope that someday I will find a way to change that.
I strive to develop the resources and skills to change that, and help others by using my wide array of past professional experience and my education in information science and technology to assist others in work and life. I contribute also through other volunteering as far as my skill and resources allow.
I have also developed skill in group facilitation, recovery advocacy, and peer recovery support. I facilitate ongoing weekly SMART Recovery meetings in the greater Seattle area.
I am grateful for my support network – my spouse, family, friends, pets, and my community. I am thankful as well to have had access to the free tools/training/connections provided by SMARTRecovery. All of these factors have been essential for me to realizesuccessful long term recovery.